It's the time of year when we gather together with friends and family to celebrate summer and our nation's independence. Likewise, the weather makes it easy to spend more time out and about and enjoy late summer nights. However, complex trauma can turn anticipated activities into anxiety-provoking situations.

Everyone wants to be in a family with a healthy attachment system that encourages closeness and comfort. Unfortunately, there are many children raised in homes of abuse and neglect. Repeated exposure to trauma can lead to complex trauma, which can cause a variety of issues. As a result, gathering together with anyone can be difficult and even triggering. 

In this article, we'll talk about complex trauma and how you might be able to support someone living with it. 

How is Complex Trauma Different? 

Children who endure early childhood trauma such as abuse or severe neglect are most likely to develop complex trauma. 

So, what makes complex trauma different? Simply put, the frequency of exposure sets this aside from single-event trauma, known as simple trauma. As you might imagine, repeated exposure can lead to a slew of issues that make it even more complicated than a single exposure. 

When you're in a traumatic situation, your brain processes information much differently. For example, instead of processing your emotions, your brain is on high alert, gathering data to ensure your survival. As a result, in these intense moments, there is very little access to the thinking side of your brain. Without proper processing, your memories can get stuck in your mind. Later, triggers such as similar sounds, smells, or sights can cause intense flashbacks. Without much warning, you may feel as though you're experiencing the traumatic incident for the first time. 

Your sense of self and attachment style develops in early childhood. Likewise, they play a significant role in the development of your physical and mental health. As a result, abuse and neglect can severely impede a child's development. 

Complex trauma can lead to a variety of issues. For example:

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  sleeplessness, irritability, anger, emotional outbursts
• debilitating flashbacks
• dissociation or desire to numb out 
• poor self-esteem and self of self
• inability to regulate your emotions
• interfere with your ability to learn and process information
• unable to form healthy relationships 
• anxiety and depression

Offering support to someone living with complex trauma can be life-changing if done correctly. Simply by your desire to learn shows you have good intentions and implies a sincere desire to help. As such, your relationship could be a significant source of strength for your loved one.